SimpleDateFormat dateFormatter = new SimpleDateFormat(
"MM/dd/yyyy");
ParsePosition parsePosition = new ParsePosition(0);
Calendar cal = Calendar.getInstance();
cal.setTime(dateFormatter.parse("03/03/2004",new
ParsePosition(0)));

This way you will get a refernce to calendar object.
Now you can get the values from the ref by using

int month  = cal.get(Calendar.MONTH) + 1;
int day  = cal.get(Calendar.DATE);
int year = cal.get(Calendar.YEAR);